Saturday, September 21, 2024
Narcissism
Saturday, August 24, 2024
Wednesday, May 29, 2024
Sunday, March 17, 2024
Novel quote
P. 60 The Fury by Alex Michaelides. There is more, that is interesting, but that is enough of a quote.
Tuesday, October 10, 2023
Self compassion
Wednesday, September 27, 2023
Mattering
I think a lot of psychological research is proving the obvious but here's another one from the New York Times: Want to Believe in Yourself? ‘Mattering’ Is Key.
And if you need a gift copy to read, you matter, blog reader, I'll send you one. Post your email address in the comments, and I'll send it and delete your comment so nobody knows your email address.
Monday, September 25, 2023
Acting in your own best interest
My daughter doesn't like to be told what to do, and there are internal forces that amplify that idea in her head. An independent streak is good, and American. But listening to good suggestions even though your psychology tells you not to, can be overridden by the idea of acting in your own best interest.
I'm like that too, the idea has to make sense to me before I will do it, but sometimes I don't consider ideas because I didn't think of it. It's a flaw I'm trying to push past. Pushing past flaws that I own is an important growth mode. Owning the change in the fight for maturity before senility.
Sometimes we don't like the choice so we make the wrong choice based on psychological reactivity.
Sometimes the environment pushes us to make the wrong choice.
Act in your own best interest is a good mantra, a good coping statement, a good way of being that attempts to filter out distracting information. In the age of information filtering out irrelevant data is essential.