ways of being

How important are certain ways of being? 

Natasha Lyonne and Fred Armisen broke up because she likes pools and he doesn't. (source)

I knew a woman who's life goal was to have a house with a pool. I thought that was arbitrary, but you know, I guess now I see the love of it. Pools can be quite fun and healthy. 

I personally would favor Armisen's side. It feels so extravagant. I'd rather live on a lake or a stream.